Few months back I wrote an article after getting frustrated from matrimonial websites and totally disappointed with my life. 2015 a year that gave me my first job in January, also gave me the love of my life at the end in December. Today I got engaged with a girl whom I fell in love at first sight. The first sight was a very formal meeting at her place with her and my parents presence. We saw each other and at the first I was like Wow .. what a beautiful girl she is. We exchanged few words, and this gave me some chance to look at her for some more time. I said yes but I was still unsure of what she was thinking about me. However I didn’t see any sign of discontent on her face that day either.
Today at the day of engagement after exchanging rings, we had some time to talk to each other. While being interrupted persistently by photographer and other people, I managed to talk her as much as I can. It was a big moment for me, she was sitting on my right side, close to me and I can say that for that moment I was the happiest person on earth that day for sure. I didn’t wanted to leave her even for a second. She was looking drop dead gorgeous and wearing almost 3KG Lehnga which she carried happily even with a neck pain that day.
Sana, whenever you read this, I want to tell you that you are the love of my life and I will love you till my last breath.
I went to doctor few months back for slight pain that was bugging me a lot. Being an educated person and belonging to a family where most people are doctor, I went to the most reputed medical college and got my ear checked from a good ENT doctor. This doctor checked both ear with his otoscope which makes it really easy for doctor to see what’s the condition inside ear and nose canal. He could not find anything particular but audiometry test reported that my left ear was not 100% perfect in listening all the frequencies. Doctor said that this pain is due to my sinus problem and gave me medicines.
Now as there was no improvement, I went again and this time it was the senior most ENT doctor that checked my ear and still he could not notice anything inside my left ear. He continued the medicines. However I was not satisfied as there was still pain in my ear and now even new problems started like ringing sound that started on its own any time and what not.
One fine day I just happen to visit my friendly roadside mechanic and I saw a man checking my mechanic ear. He was a quack and often people get their ear cleaned from them. I thought why not give this man a try and let him check my ear. I told him to just see the condition of my ear. I did not told him anything about audiometry test and that I am having pain in my ear and my left ear failed the audiometry test. I just told him to check and do nothing. He checks my right ear in just day light without any scope with his naked eyes and says the ear is fine. He although could not resist and cleaned the ear anyway. He checks my left ear and tadaa..! literally springs from his place and calls the mechanic to see what he was seeing. It was something not right and he immediately gave his report that my left ear needs intensive cleaning or else I may have issues later. He didn’t knew that I was already having those issues so I gave him a go to do his work and fix my ear. On which he told his fee of Rs.150. I knew that I have already spent thousands on antibiotics which were not able to fix my ear so this was no big amount. I just told him that I should not get deaf on which both my mechanic and the quack laughed. Quack open his small wooden box, takes out a small bottle with white oil and pour few drops of it in my ear. He then uses his tool and after few seconds of trying, pulls out a huge ball of gunk that was struck on ear drum causing all the problems. Picture of which is on the right. He again open his box, and pours another oil, yellow color this time and finally cleans the ear with cotton and says your ear will be fine now. Its almost 2 weeks now and his words were correct, my ear is fine and right after the day of his ear cleaning, all the pain, ringing sound was gone. Left ear also passed audiometry test now.
I am not promoting this quack and every ENT doctor will advice to stay away from them but this quack was not only able to find the root cause of ear pain in few seconds using just his eyes and also fix the problem while doctors were clueless even when using advanced tools. Its knowledge and experience that matters, books and degree cannot make someone a good doctor that’s for sure.
I joined as a part time computer teacher in January and this was my first job I ever did in my life. It has been two months and today I received my first salary, it was a good day. First month I did not receive any salary because of some delay in paperwork so I got a combined salary for both the months. Its still not a big amount as I easy make much more than this in my freelance web development but still this first salary means a lot to me, I would keep this salary slip forever with me.
New year got a drastic change in my life as I took a job as part time computer teacher in January this year. Why I did this? there are many reasons. First and biggest reason for this was that my life was getting stale with almost no social interaction and as everyone would agree that sitting in front of computer and working for long hours is not fun.
Its true that more you meet people, the more you want to get away from them and that was the reason that at one point I thought of only being a full time freelance web developer. But soon I realized that social interaction is important for both mental and physical health. There has to be a balance and to make this balance what could be better than becoming a teacher?
Now everyday I go to school, spend some quality time interacting with my colleagues and teaching a class with 45+ students, its just feels great. It all started one morning when I got a call from AMU that I am selected by the selection committee and I can join any time I want, honestly I never expected to get this job as in the interview I told that I have zero teaching experience but I think because of being overqualified for this post and due to my confidence they offered me this job.
Working as a freelance web developer alone with no one to help, it was okay till now but since few months I was checking on my daily schedule that I had almost no time left for myself. Earlier I used to take out time for my hobby, some exercise, little things that kept me social like visiting friends place at various occasions or just hanging out and having a good time etc. but now all I was doing was eating, sleeping and working. Due to this change in life style I noticed rapid increase in body weight as well, which is not a good sign at all.
I thought of hiring someone to work for me but again this freelance work was so typical that I could not find anyone around me worth hiring. I talked about this issue with my friends and one of them who was also from computer background suggested that I can give her some work to do and she will do it for free just for learning and work experience. I agreed and also committed that if her work was good, I would pay for the work, but she insisted that she does not need money.
It began with little easy and small task which I gave her to check her ability and she did a kind of “just okay” job and I knew I was not going to get any worthwhile help from her in my freelance work. I lied and said that her work was good although I was not satisfied. Later on I gave her some designing work to check her taste of colours and how well she understands the current design trends and she failed badly in it. Her design work was pathetic but again to make her not feel bad I said it was good. Although I said it was good since I didn’t use her design in final project and obviously it got rejected by the client as well, she understood now that she needs some training and I agreed to give her that, but I was still quite hopeless. Just like I thought, even after several months of training, I was not seeing any progress and during these time, just that she doesn’t feel bad I used to say that you are working well and you are learning fast and so on.
Now during festive season I usually have truckloads of work with myself as I also take some print design jobs from my local clients and I was not having a minute of free time. However I continued with the training and all this time I was lying that yes I got time but in reality I had no time at all. At last I have to give up when I learnt that she is still stuck from where we started and there was no development at all. I had to speak the truth one by one, starting that I simply have no more time for training now. Wish I had said this much before and saved so much time and embarrassment.
When we manipulate someone, although it seems to work for the moment but then deep inside us we know that we are not doing good and that makes us feel uncomfortable after sometime. Here is a nice TVC by Kinley which shows exactly the same feeling of regret and how one can fix it by just speaking the truth.